Thank you for making these videos for us. They are really helpful.
I am a bit confused about a few things. You say that it's important to know exactly what kind of relationship you want w/ a woman before actually beginning the relationship. That is, you want to go meet woman knowing exactly what you want with them.
My sticking point is that I haven't completely mastered my insecurities. For example, if I am doing the MLTR route, I still get uncomfortable feelings of jealousy and insecurity. No, it is not so bad that I act on these feelings. I don't issue rules to the woman. I don't tell them they can't fuck other men. But inside, I don't feel 100% comfortable with it. Does that make sense to you? I feel as if it's simply something I need to work on more and more. As I practice it more, I think it will get easier.
However at my current experience level, I'm sort of stuck somewhere between monogamy and polyamory. So on the one hand, I don't want to go monogamous because it would be based out of insecurity. And I don't think that's a very good reason. On the other hand, I have problems with polymory since I have not completely mastered my monkey brain yet. The result of this position is that I may be expressing a bit of a confusing frame to a woman.
Peter,
ReplyDeleteThank you for making these videos for us. They are really helpful.
I am a bit confused about a few things. You say that it's important to know exactly what kind of relationship you want w/ a woman before actually beginning the relationship. That is, you want to go meet woman knowing exactly what you want with them.
My sticking point is that I haven't completely mastered my insecurities. For example, if I am doing the MLTR route, I still get uncomfortable feelings of jealousy and insecurity. No, it is not so bad that I act on these feelings. I don't issue rules to the woman. I don't tell them they can't fuck other men. But inside, I don't feel 100% comfortable with it. Does that make sense to you? I feel as if it's simply something I need to work on more and more. As I practice it more, I think it will get easier.
However at my current experience level, I'm sort of stuck somewhere between monogamy and polyamory. So on the one hand, I don't want to go monogamous because it would be based out of insecurity. And I don't think that's a very good reason. On the other hand, I have problems with polymory since I have not completely mastered my monkey brain yet. The result of this position is that I may be expressing a bit of a confusing frame to a woman.
Can you help?
Great questions Vadim! I'll make a video in the next couple days answering them.
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